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Louise Fitzgerald
My personal growth journey started a few years before I decided to study and
I am still thoroughly amazed by what I am doing with my life. I am also one
of those counsellors who have themselves been abused. Some of you will realise
how far I have come up to this point, some of you may not realise this as yet.
I have gone from being a person who couldn’t look at another human being
in the eye, so low was my self esteem, to now doing things with my life that
are beyond my wildest dreams. I found it very difficult to speak to other people
and I find myself wondering how I ever managed to have a life at all.
Let me tell you what I am doing now. I have begun to counsel people individually
and my clients have come to me through word of mouth. I have done nothing to
deliberately market my skills at all and I have been facilitating recovery
groups for survivors of sexual abuse and for women with a dysfunctional family
of origin, for over a year now through my local church. The name of this ministry
is Careforce. A few months ago my Pastor approached me with regards to my becoming
the ministry team leader for Careforce. I was over the moon for a couple of
weeks and then the responsibility and the work load hit me and I wasn’t
so sure. Could I really teach people the skills that I had only just acquired
myself? Did I really have what it takes to support a team of people who do
this sort of work? Well I am doing it! I am currently in the middle of teaching
my first facilitator’s training course and, amazingly enough, it is going
very well.
Next year I start my Bachelor of Social Sciences degree majoring in Christian
Counseling. My diploma gives me eight units of credit for this degree.
Look, this might seem like I am blowing my own trumpet but really I am not.
I just want to share with you all that are possible. You can achieve whatever
is in your heart to achieve. The road might be a bit rocky at times, but remember
that we grow through the tough times, not the smooth.
Yes, I am focused and determined, but I have struggled too. I have had units
sent back because I have made silly mistakes. I have sat down to a four hour
study period and got half an hour into it and dissolved into tears because
of the personal issues it has brought up. I have even had to struggle through
marital difficulties that I would have never imagined, as I have grown and
changed over the months as a result of the nature of these studies. I empathise
with your struggles but I do not sympathise, because I know with determination
you too can succeed!
If you struggle with managing your time, make out a study plan and stick to
it. Decide how long this diploma will take you realistically. Split your units
into manageable bundles. I used school terms as I fitted my studies around
my children. Decide how long each unit will take, even each section of a unit
if you have to. Set yourself deadlines for each unit and make study a priority
in your life. I think it is very important that you reward yourself when you
meet your deadlines and achieve each small goal.
Personally, I have taken every available opportunity to get practical experience.
You might think that you don’t have the time to spare because you are
studying, but it is well worth the effort. I believe that I am far more confident
as a beginning counsellor as a result of my practical experience than I would
have been otherwise. Remember it all counts towards the hours of the counselling
membership associations.
I want to encourage you to keep pressing on towards your goal and imagine the
sense of satisfaction you will feel at the end. I know you will succeed in your
studies and find fulfilment in life whatever you choose to do in the future. |